Post by terri9967 on Jul 1, 2009 13:47:10 GMT -5
As the rain continues here, depression seems to be getting worse for me. Thought I would be good after a nice week long vacation but.......
All started other other day when i was so frustrated with the 3 little dogs I have. One of them is only 7 months and for the life of me I can not get her house broke. We (me!) put her outside and she comes back in and goes to the bathroom on kitchen floor. I have never had a dog this difficult! Top it all off she got pregnant by my male who is another sore spot for me. I have all peekapoos and my male keeps spraying. My 9 year old she is perfect! No troubles with her. But I had a really bad day the other day. The puppy, Paris, had gone to the bathroom in her kennel, as she always seems to do, and I had given her a bath and mopped the kitchen floor, in the morning, like I do every morning, and she had gone to the bathroom several time in the kitchen and again in the kennel. (another bath) my male, Pierre, had sprayed my fridge and the hall way where I have taken old smelly carpet out. I had been trying to fix a nice home made speg and meatball dinner for all 7 of us and clean the house, and keep up with the new free 20X5 pool. Hubby came home from work and asked if I could make a pot of coffee.......Ok.....I got right on that. then I had told him of my awful day with the dogs and told him that I wanted to get rid of them all, and explained that I just cant do it anymore. I am the only one that cleans up after them. He said "well you're home all day" so I repeated myself and said I just cant do it anymore. He turned around in a very sarcastic whiny voice "I cant do it anymore" that just sent me into instant tears. I said in tears, I wish I was not sick" He just turned when upstairs. I just feel so overwhelmed lately, so many things need to be done around the house and I cant get the energy to do them. Gutters have not been cleaned in 3 years and we got a pool for free, its a sofpool and people said it was a 15X4 so we spent a day clearing the yard of rocks and trying to get it level. Then spent 3 days filling it. boy the people were soooo wrong on the size it is a 20X5 not 15X4. Carpet needs put down. And top it all off my granddaughters baptism is Friday and then on the 10th I have a graduation party for my daughter to do here, and on the 24th is my other daughters sweet 16 birthday party I have to do here as well. Yard needs cleaned, chain link fence needs put up, pool needs cleaned. Just sooo much, to much! Before I was sick this would not be a problem. I would get it all done without any troubles. But I cant see myself getting everything done in time.
My hubby does not like to talk or think about me being sick. Makes him to depressed he says. So he works, comes home and does computer programing all night.
I love him dearly, and he took me and 3 teenage daughters, on knowing before hand how sick I was and what a hard road I have. But since we married, he has stopped helping out around the house. We used to cook and do dishes together, work on the yard together, do the house repairs together. Now, he doesn't do any of that. If its something I can not do I have to ask my dad or my daughters boyfriend to help me. I shouldn't have to do that, should I?
And even with trying to keep up on house stuff, I am expected to look pretty and have energy and be "in the mood" when he is.
I told him and my daughters boyfriend the other night, they treat horses with a broken bone better then this. Some times I just want to give up. What kind of a life is this??? Since the granddaughter was born I kept her in sight to keep fighting and going on, but now theses days I hurt so bad that I have a hard time even holding her for more then 5 min. My patients level is so low. I can not handle alot of commotion anymore. My blood pressure sky rockets when things get loud and rowdy here. And with 3 teenagers, with there boyfriends/girlfriends and a grand-baby and 3 dogs, there is always commotion.
How do you all cope with life's NORMAL things??? I feel like I am short changing my kids, husband and now a grandchild. Its not fair to them just as much as its not fair to me!! I don't know what to do anymore!
Wow, I am so sorry this has turned into such a long whine fest. No one else seems to understand except my friends on here.
Sorry again.
Terri
All started other other day when i was so frustrated with the 3 little dogs I have. One of them is only 7 months and for the life of me I can not get her house broke. We (me!) put her outside and she comes back in and goes to the bathroom on kitchen floor. I have never had a dog this difficult! Top it all off she got pregnant by my male who is another sore spot for me. I have all peekapoos and my male keeps spraying. My 9 year old she is perfect! No troubles with her. But I had a really bad day the other day. The puppy, Paris, had gone to the bathroom in her kennel, as she always seems to do, and I had given her a bath and mopped the kitchen floor, in the morning, like I do every morning, and she had gone to the bathroom several time in the kitchen and again in the kennel. (another bath) my male, Pierre, had sprayed my fridge and the hall way where I have taken old smelly carpet out. I had been trying to fix a nice home made speg and meatball dinner for all 7 of us and clean the house, and keep up with the new free 20X5 pool. Hubby came home from work and asked if I could make a pot of coffee.......Ok.....I got right on that. then I had told him of my awful day with the dogs and told him that I wanted to get rid of them all, and explained that I just cant do it anymore. I am the only one that cleans up after them. He said "well you're home all day" so I repeated myself and said I just cant do it anymore. He turned around in a very sarcastic whiny voice "I cant do it anymore" that just sent me into instant tears. I said in tears, I wish I was not sick" He just turned when upstairs. I just feel so overwhelmed lately, so many things need to be done around the house and I cant get the energy to do them. Gutters have not been cleaned in 3 years and we got a pool for free, its a sofpool and people said it was a 15X4 so we spent a day clearing the yard of rocks and trying to get it level. Then spent 3 days filling it. boy the people were soooo wrong on the size it is a 20X5 not 15X4. Carpet needs put down. And top it all off my granddaughters baptism is Friday and then on the 10th I have a graduation party for my daughter to do here, and on the 24th is my other daughters sweet 16 birthday party I have to do here as well. Yard needs cleaned, chain link fence needs put up, pool needs cleaned. Just sooo much, to much! Before I was sick this would not be a problem. I would get it all done without any troubles. But I cant see myself getting everything done in time.
My hubby does not like to talk or think about me being sick. Makes him to depressed he says. So he works, comes home and does computer programing all night.
I love him dearly, and he took me and 3 teenage daughters, on knowing before hand how sick I was and what a hard road I have. But since we married, he has stopped helping out around the house. We used to cook and do dishes together, work on the yard together, do the house repairs together. Now, he doesn't do any of that. If its something I can not do I have to ask my dad or my daughters boyfriend to help me. I shouldn't have to do that, should I?
And even with trying to keep up on house stuff, I am expected to look pretty and have energy and be "in the mood" when he is.
I told him and my daughters boyfriend the other night, they treat horses with a broken bone better then this. Some times I just want to give up. What kind of a life is this??? Since the granddaughter was born I kept her in sight to keep fighting and going on, but now theses days I hurt so bad that I have a hard time even holding her for more then 5 min. My patients level is so low. I can not handle alot of commotion anymore. My blood pressure sky rockets when things get loud and rowdy here. And with 3 teenagers, with there boyfriends/girlfriends and a grand-baby and 3 dogs, there is always commotion.
How do you all cope with life's NORMAL things??? I feel like I am short changing my kids, husband and now a grandchild. Its not fair to them just as much as its not fair to me!! I don't know what to do anymore!
Wow, I am so sorry this has turned into such a long whine fest. No one else seems to understand except my friends on here.
Sorry again.
Terri